Pack 01 · inner critic, perfectionism & all-or-nothing — worksheet 2 of 27

Name the voice

As long as the critic talks in your own voice, every word it says lands like the truth. The fastest way to loosen its grip is to give it a name and a face — because the moment it is a character, it stops being you.

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1 Carry the line forward

Bring over the opening line you caught last worksheet, or write it fresh. You are about to hand it to a character, so put it down exactly as it sounds.

2 Build the character

Picture the voice as a separate person standing in the room. Give it the details that make it a someone, not a fact about you — a name, a tone, and the thing it is always sure it is protecting you from.

What I'll call it: The Foreman  |  How it sounds: Clipped and disappointed, like a boss who already expects less of me  |  Keeping me safe from: Looking lazy or being caught not trying hard enough

3 Whose voice is it really?

A critic this practised was rehearsed somewhere. Often the tone belongs to a real person, or a real season of your life. Hearing whose it is takes some of the air out of it. When you say the line out loud in that tone, who does it sound like, and when did you first start hearing it?

4 Signs it's a character, not you

Once the voice has a name and a face, you can test whether it is really you talking or a character running a script. Tick the ones that fit — the more that land, the more clearly this is a voice you can answer rather than a verdict you have to obey.

5 Talk to it, not as it

Now that it has a name, you can answer it instead of obeying it. Say one plain sentence back to the character — not a fight, just the calm correction you would give anyone who was being unfair to a person you cared about.

6 Your character, named

This assembles from what you wrote above. Read it once — naming the voice this plainly is what turns it from a verdict into a character you can answer.

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Next in this pack: The critic catch-log — track when the named voice fires and what believing it costs you.

For personal reflection and growth. This worksheet is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care.